Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Headed for his own home


It was 3:00 am and frigid with a five mile walk on a fractured leg, but he was warm and happy inside.  He was going home.

Brad and Cindy had come into our Northeast Emergency Food Program toward the end of summer, their eyes red and hazed with exhaustion and hopelessness.  Seeing the toddler in Cindy’s arm, we asked her what they needed most.  “Diapers,” she whispered.  Of all the days, our supply was totally gone. 

Way short on volunteers that day, we had decided to keep the clothing room closed.  But when Brad and Cindy arrived, Jeni, my assistant, quickly threw it open.  Brad had lost his job months before, then the home they were renting, then all their belongings were stolen from the place they’d been stored.  Just about everything was gone. 

Mabel, an occasional client of ours, had opened her home to them and they were sharing the sofa.  Mabel, who lives close to our previous location, still comes in once or twice a year when finances get too tight to manage.  She brought them on the bus that day to see if we could help them.

We did as much as we could, except for the diapers.  With them loaded up with a five-day supply of food and whatever clothes we could find to fit the three of them, they all headed out the door.  About to run an errand in my pickup, I broke policy and offered to help get them home.  With the baby, there was no way they were even going to make it to the bus stop four blocks away.  So I took Mabel and all the food and clothing, while Brad, Cindy and June rode the bus.

Brad had gone to college on a basketball scholarship, a dream that had ended before the first season began when his leg was fractured in practice and, without the scholarship, he’d had to drop out of school.  He’d drifted to the West Coast and wound up in Portland getting paid disassembling cars until he was laid off and life spiraled down.

After Mabel brought them to us, he came in again until he’d reached his quota (3 times in 6 months).  One day concerned as to how they were doing, I went looking for them.  I knew where Mabel lived because of that earlier drop off.  She said they’d stayed with her a month and had moved into one of those cheap hotels over on 82nd.  I found the place – “cheap” meant everything but the price: $1,600-a-month for a rat-infested mini apartment.  The one bedroom they sub rented to a friend while they slept on the living room floor, a tiny kitchen and a bathroom completing the place.  But at least it was warm and dry as winter came on. 

Brad, ever looking for a better place to live, had no money to pay the first and last month rent, so they kept eking by five days at a time.  With the friend splitting costs, Brad made up the rest with unemployment benefits and selling his blood for $64 a week.  Nothing was left for food or diapers.  They received food stamps, but those didn’t last the full month and they didn’t cover diapers.  Brad kept looking for work and resorted to begging on the streets on more than one occasion. 

He started coming in to volunteer for us.  Through telling their story, I’d already brought in a lot of diapers, so I told them to get some – on the house!  He made it clear he wasn’t volunteering to get, but gratefully took my offer anyway.

One day out looking for work, he was crossing at an intersection.  A motorist, texting, looked up too late and hit him.  An officer saw the whole thing, couldn’t stop it from happening.  Brad showed up the next day we were open, walking with a brace, his leg fractured in two places and with permanent nerve damage.  He’d come in to volunteer, walking two miles each way.

Funds were getting tighter.  Unable to sell his blood because of the injury, he started running out of money before the rent was due.  He called me one day, his voice quietly desperate.  “No,” I said, “we don’t have resources to help with rent, but I’ll see what I can do.”  I shared his story with a friend, who supplied the $120 they were short to pay their rent the next day. 

Someone called and asked if we knew anyone who needed a lighted artificial tree for Christmas.  I knew just the home for that tree – June‘s eyes lit up as much as that tree did.

Days before Christmas, they hit bottom.  Unable to come up with $300 for the next five days, the owner said they’d have to leave.  They pleaded to no avail.  I found someone else who could cover the gap.  It was the first time I’d seen Cindy smile.  They were good through Christmas.

A long-time NEFP volunteer took them a Fred Meyer gift card on Christmas Eve.  Then they got word of a duplex for rent where they wouldn’t need the last month’s rent and the owner would give them time to catch up.  The owner called me to verify their story.  Two days before the end of the year, my sons and I moved the family and their friend to that lovely, fixed-up two-bedroom with a fenced-in yard in a quiet SE neighborhood.  All their belongings fit in my pickup and my son’s car.  Except for the friend, who gladly took a bus.

The one job Brad had found was a one-night-a-week stint as a hotel desk clerk just down the street from their old hotel.  It was five miles from where they now lived.  But Brad was thrilled to walk the distance.

Brad, still looking for work, is back to selling his blood.  Now settled in their clean rental, they’re almost keeping up – with unemployment benefits having been extended.  June, drinking milk like crazy, is almost out of diapers, and at 19 months is growing “like a weed.”  I miss seeing him come in now that they’ve moved further away.  I keep praying he’ll find the right job, one accessible by bus.  And I give thanks that Mabel brought them to the right place.

Names of all clients have been changed.

1 comment:

  1. Powerful story. I am always amazed at the clarity stories like this bring to issues of poverty. Sometimes the so-called "anecdotal" pieces of evidence actually tell more truth about an issue than all the statistics money can buy.

    Working at a food pantry organization, I have heard many bits of information come through our volunteers and staff in the food department, that are very similar to this story. Frequent themes include:

    -Lost jobs
    -Living in a hotel
    -Coming up short on rent
    -Selling blood or plasma
    -Frequent moves
    -Trying to job-hunt without a car

    I dream of a society where it is easier for the poor to advance themselves than the rich. Sadly, ours is grossly bent in the opposite direction. The richer you are, the easier it is to get richer still, while the poorer you are, the more likely it is that what you do have might also be taken from you.

    --Brian

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